While we all want to be liked by our coworkers, sometimes the path to likability isn’t all that clear. We may think that we’re doing kind of things that will get the people we work with to like us, but then it turns out that the opposite is actually the case.
So, what then can we do to be more likable at work? Fortunately, there are a number of different ways to improve your likability. Here are 5 of the most effective.
1. Show a real interest in others
Think for a moment how you feel when your boss or a coworker expresses a sincere interest in you—your background, who you are as a person, what you like and dislike. Chances are you felt really good when that person showed an interest in you. Now turn it around and consider how your coworkers will feel when you show an interest in them. They’ll feel really good too, and they’ll like you better as a result.
2. Be humble
No one likes a braggart—someone who constantly has to make sure you’re aware of all the great things he or she has accomplished. These people get super boring really quick. One of the best ways to be more likable both at work and in your personal life is to be humble and self-effacing. Instead of telling everyone about all the wonderful things you’ve accomplished, let your actions do the talking. You’ll find that people will be attracted to you instead of running away when they see you coming.
3. Be kind
Sadly, most every workplace has one or more people who are cruel and uncaring to their coworkers and sometimes even their boss. Kindness is a real virtue on the job, and it is a sure way to becoming more likable at work. When you feel frustrated by the actions of someone at work, step back for a moment and try kindness and understanding instead of anger. You might just be surprised at the result.
4. Focus your attention
There are a lot of technology-driven distractions in the typical workplace today, including smartphones, text messages, social media, computer screens, and much more. So when you take a moment to put all that technology aside and focus your full attention on someone else, he or she can’t help but feel important and special.
5. Be reliable
When your boss and coworker know that you are reliable—that they can depend on you to do what you say you’re going to do, no matter what obstacles may be in your way—they will find you more likable.